For now, I am using the word sexuality
to mean all of that, and perhaps more. It is that part of us that
desires that sort of physical intimacy. It is about the sort of
intimacy we desire. It is what we like to do, and the sort of person
we like to do it with. It is even involved in things we do entirely
on our own. It is what we do, it is what we want, it is what we dream
of.
It is whether we
like men, women, or any part of the gender spectrum. It is whether we
are more drawn to those who are tall or short, slender or
full-figures, wiry or muscled. It is how we are drawn to muscles, how
we are drawn to minds. It is whether we want more sex, or less. It is
our kinks, our turn-ons, our likes and dislikes.
You might see sex
as an inextricable part of romantic relationships, even to the point
of not experiencing sexual attraction until you have made an
emotional bond. You might see romance and sex as entirely distinct,
even prefer not to have the two entangled in your life. You might be
romantically drawn to one sort of person, and sexually drawn to
another. You might see both sex and romance as things that occur
strictly one-to-one, or you might feel that romantic and sexual love
is not, cannot be limited in that way for you.
You might have
extremely conventional tastes, not want to anything beyond the
‘vanilla’. You might want to try everything, experience it all.
You might have extremely unconventional tastes. You might practice or
fantasise about things that most people have never even thought of.
You might have tastes in fantasy or practice that would be thought of
as weird, even disgusting, by others.
It's all fine. We
don't choose what we like and dislike, whether we have a tremendous
sex drive or none at all. We don't choose when it changes – and it
will change over our lives. What goes on in your own mind, or between
consenting adults, free from abuse, is fine. The Light shines through
much of human endeavour, and sexuality is no exception. The Spirit
rejoices in our joys and comforts us in our sorrows, and the joys and
sorrows of sexuality are no exception. To take joy in our bodies, and
sharing those joys with others, is part of the wide bounty of the
Divine. To refrain from doing so, by inclination or conviction, is
being true to the Spirit and a joy in itself. Do not be bound by
expectation and convention, but by love and compassion and the
promptings of Truth, and the Spirit will rejoice in you, with you,
and within you.
Written January 2019
